It may sound contradictory yet it’s so true. Richard Bach, author of the best sellers Jonathan Livingston Seagull and Illusions: Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah says it this way: “Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they’re yours.”
Let’s take a look at how this might show up in your business.
No matter what your business is, sooner or later you are going to have to talk with people—or at the very least connect with them online. You say “I can’t talk with people, even online; I’m too shy.”
Well, guess what, if you choose to hold on to your shyness, it can cost you a fortune.
You have to “let go” of your shyness so that you can“have” whatever it is you want from your business for your life.
Maybe shyness isn’t an issue for you because you are extremely personable. However, the thought of using social media or social networking to help build your business seems way too techie for you.
Same thing again; if you choose to hold on to your “it’s too techie for me beliefs,” it can cost you a fortune from all the online buyers and potential clients/customers.
You have to “let go” of your “too techie for me beliefs” so that you can “have” whatever it is you want. You can either learn how to use social media and social networking or you can hire someone to do it for you. Thousands and thousands of people of all ages are using it, why not you?
If you continue to hold on to beliefs that do not serve you, you will miss out on the life you want.
As motivational speaker Les Brown says: “Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.”
Are you willing to Let Go so that you can Have?
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Hi Janet,
wow, what an amazing post for me to discover at 2 minutes after midnight. Must be for a reason that I accidentally opened Google reader…
I can strongly resonate with Les Brown’s message because I believe that we will review our life movie in split seconds – or longer – on our deathbed. Especially the crossroads. Well, people who were clinically dead and came back, changed their lives radically from one day to the other because they saw what mortals don’t see normally, only when it’s – too late.
The question is: Do we have to wait until we die to realize our self-limiting beliefs and that only we and no one else did hold on to them ? Do we have to become seriously ill – or one of other loved ones – until we accept the obvious ? Do we have to be clinically dead first until we see ?
Or can we make this decision today when we’re alive and kicking ?
The first step is a confession and a declaration today: Yes, I harbour self-limiting beliefs and only I and no one else is holding on to them. I will become more and more aware of them and let go of them in peace and harmony as I grow.
Thanks for this brilliant “good night” lesson
Take care
Oliver
Oliver, aloha. No doubt you are enjoying wonderful dreams/thoughts because of reading this post before going to bed.
Oliver, I’m with you; let’s make the decision today rather than when we are on our deathbeds.
You must feel lighter already, Oliver, with your declaration. Enjoy the journey to the life that you want.
Sleep well, my friend. Until tomorrow, aloha. Janet
What a wonderful confirmation for what I am doing. Thank you Janet.
If you get five minutes, come see what I am doing. I’d be grateful for your input. http://wp.me/pbg0R-lX
Stan, aloha. Definitely will be by though it will likely be tomorrow. I have back to back meetings and then out for the evening. Tomorrow is devoted to catching up with friends on their blogs. Look forward to seeing you then, Stan. Aloha. Janet
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.
How perfect, Jack. Thx so much.
Janet,
This was so powerful!
And it has me thinking of what I might be holding onto, which is limiting me. This is one I have to sit with a bit, and really let it soak into my soul. Because, I know it’s all too easy to make up reasons for what it is that I do. Is this so I don’t let go??
Thank you.
Lance, aloha. The human mind is quite amazing with its ability when it doesn’t want to change the status quo, isn’t it.
Hopefully, by causing people to think of what they say to themselves as their excuse for not doing, they will then recognize and be able to realize that limitation. Until later over at your place, aloha. Janet
Janet aloha. I sometimes speak to people who are being unsuccessful in business, who tell me that obviously being in business is not for them.
When I ask why they say this, they always say something to the effect of “Because I just don’t know how to make it work” I always tell them that’s exactly why they have been given this opportunity, to transcend, to stick with it until they do.
Janet I remind them that had they never started a business it’s possible they would never have known that they had the self limitations in the first place. They are being shown exactly what it is they came here to learn.
The business is really just the context for them to experience the joy that comes from conquering their limitations which will pay them far more handsomely than any financial gain they think they want.
I love the title of your post Janet because ‘letting go’ is the key.
When you decide to stop focusing on the limitation, the reality of what is and allow yourself to move towards what can be you will.
Janet I came across a quote today that I had never heard and is so apt for this topic that I must share it with you and your readers –
“How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar” ~ Michael Motley
Doesn’t that just say it all Janet?
Thank you for the opportunity to visit here again Janet and have a wonderful day or evening ahead.
~Marcus
Marcus, aloha. What’s ironic, Marcus, is that so often people don’t even realize that they are arguing for their limitations. They do not realize that they and they alone by nurturing their beliefs in their limitations are stopping or slowing down their journey to their objectives.
That lizard brain is ever vigilant in keeping us safe from harm. Unfortunately, that lizard brain does not realize that just as much, if not more, harm is caused by staying in the same place as opposed to moving forward.
Marcus, I absolutely love, love, love this quote and know that I will be using it often. Thank you so much. As you will see, I have already posted it on facebook as well as tweeted it.
Best wishes for a magnificent day. Aloha. Janet
P.S. Did you see this great quote TheJackB left?
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Another fantastic article, Janet. I am always enriched when I visit your blog.
Of course I couldn’t agree more that letting go of limitations is important to overcoming them. I believe whatever I tell myself, especially when I tell myself the same thing over and over again. If I tell myself, and others, that I can’t do something then I will absolutely believe this is true.
One practice I’ve used to build self confidence is to tell myself positive messages over and over again and eventually I believe that, too.
Namaste,
Chrysta
Chrysta, aloha. So good to see you here. With your background, it is no surprise that you have mastered letting go. The good news/bad news is that you have had lots of practice. Because of that, Chrysta, you are able to help so many people free themselves to live and to enjoy the life they want.
Positive self talk is so important as we have discussed on your blog and mine.
Best wishes to you, my friend, for a magnificent day. Aloha. Janet
Shyness is one big millstone to carry slung around the neck.
It’s a primitive mechanism to keep you safe. Except it can go haywire and keep you too safe. Safe from everything, including the things you want.
Well said, John. That primitive mechanism, the lizard brain, only wants to do what it knows, even if it isn’t working, because at least it knows what it is.
Hey Janet!
This is such an important issue – the way we hold ourselves back in our minds. Letting go of the confines in our minds can do exceptional things for our life.
I’m a huge Les Brown fan. Thanks for sharing this video. I hadn’t see it before.
Marlee, aloha. Welcome to my blog. It is always a pleasure to greet first time visitors–especially since we are both members of the Social Media Guild!
Marlee, how could anyone not be a huge fan of Les Brown? He just makes so much sense! If people don’t want to hear his message, the only way they can avoid it is to keep their ears slammed shut. Otherwise, the clarity and simplicity of his powerfully delivered message will get you every time.
Thx so much for stopping by, Marlee. Look forward to seeing you soon in the blogosphere. Until then, aloha. Janet
Like the old parable of letting go of the bird to insure it wanted to be where it was…as the parable for love and marriage…
Thanks for the share, Janet.
Roy, aloha. Like you, I have always like that parable.
Marcus left this quote which I quite like; I had not heard it before.
“How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar” ~ Michael Motley
Best wishes for a terrific day. Aloha. Janet
Beautiful message Janet and oh so very true… I’m sure you probably know what kind of comment I’m going to leave with you today.
I don’t take life for granted, I don’t have any “what if’s”. Sure, I might not have any really big huge dreams or things I want to accomplish. I think they just come with time but I have no regrets whatsoever. I always tell the people that are important to me what they mean to me and no words are ever gone unsaid between us. I’ve been to the places I’ve always wanted to go and still have some on my list but no regrets.
My life is simple but I learned a long time ago to move through the fear. By the time you get to the other side, you’re looking back going darn, I sure wish I would have done that a l-o-n-g time ago. Yep, just do it. It ain’t so bad!
Thanks for this message. Absolutely wonderful my beautiful friend.
Adrienne
I can completely relate to the example about being shy with online interactions. But I hope that now, because I’m more comfortable with, that I can be empathetic. It’s not an easy thing to do. Especially if you combine it with something like apprehension towards technology. But like with so many things – no risk, no reward. Thanks for your post!
Whitney, aloha. You said it best–no risk, no reward! The best part is, Whitney, after you start to do something, it almost always becomes easier/better. It’s the not starting that gets you every time.
So good to see you here, Whitney. Thx for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Until next time, aloha. Janet
Hi,Janet,
The issue of limiting beliefs means we should let go off our fears. I like Mr Brown’s message saying that we only have those limitations in life that we set by our own will. It’s always been tempting to try something different, let go off the fear and see the outcome. The only problem, however, is that many people are afraid to do that…but, for me, since temptation is so attractive, I always remember Oscar Wilde’s words: “I can resist everything except temptation”, so I try living by that rule.
I guess I just get bored if I am stuck to the same routine every day.
The one who dares, wins!
Kristina, aloha. You are so right that the one who dares, wins! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you want anything in life, you have to take action.
Some people are willing to get out of their comfort zones so that they can have “more” in their lives while others are reluctant to budge–even if the house is falling down around them. Our lives are defined by our choices; not taking action is a choice as well.
Thx so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, Kristina. Best wishes for a terrific weekend. Aloha. Janet